How Deactivating Facebook Changed Things For Me

October 30, 2013 — 2 Comments

Life is full of ups and downs but recently I have this eagerness to share more of myself

Which Direction are you going?

as I believe it’s my way of helping someone out there who might read this. If I help one person who reads this, I have served my purpose.

I used to be a lamb at one point in my life. One of those people that just follower the pack and did everything that everyone else was doing. I was doing things just because everyone else was doing it and I wanted to be one of those cool people that was in with the ‘cool people.’

The story in my head was I had to follower these ‘cool’ people to get to where I wanted to go. Little did I know I was not getting anywhere.  

There was a point where I had NO direction and was just going with the flow. The only thing with this flow was it had no direction. I had no compass to follow to know I was going in the right direction. I was just following whatever the next best thing was going on in the Fitness Industry and following the ‘gurus’ out there because everyone else was doing that.

I bought in to things that after buying it, I asked myself ‘Why did I by this’?

The sad thing about this was I never learnt from that mistake and I would do the same thing again and ask the same question.

Yes I know….a sign of craziness!

But I did not know any better at the time. At that stage of my life, in my eyes, I believed that was the correct thing to do.

On Facebook I would post things to see how many ‘likes’ I would get and would check my phone every 5 seconds to see who liked my post. My thought process was to boost my ego more than anything else and nothing more. Getting loads of likes made for a great day; getting no likes made for a bad day.

Yes my self- confidence was low and self -belief was just as low. I can say that now, but at the time I was not seeing that. I was looking through a pair of lenses that were extremely cloudy.

The flow of life felt challenging in these days. Everything felt uphill and twice as hard as it should be. I never felt happy with anything and would find fault in others and jealousy towards other people. I just went through the motions with everything I did. No PURPOSE whatsoever in what I was doing or where I was going. I did not stand for anthing and was falling for EVERYTHING.

The arrow on my compass was going around in circles.

After doing this for many years, I realized something was not right and looked at my life and saw some HARSH realities. Going in to my thirties I suddenly realized I had nothing to show for my life and had to make some changes as I knew deep down I wanted more and that there was more to life than what I was doing.

One decision I made that drastically helped me was I came off social media. I deactivated every social media account I had, as I realized this was draining me and I was directing my energy in the wrong places.It was taking up my time for all the wrong reasons and I was slowly wasting away my life.

This was probably one of the best things I did as I now had to spend more time with me and my thoughts, and also had to find new ways of entertaining my wondering mind. I spent a lot of time reading books on the mind and started seeing the mistakes I was making.

I wanted to kick myself when I realized what I was doing to myself and how sometimes we are our own worst enemies.

In today’s society it is very easy to follow what others are doing instead of standing out in a crowd. We have become cowards to go after what we want in life and spend too much time looking at what other people are doing and not doing what we want to do. We think about what other people would think about what we are doing and this holds us back.

I know I did these things and it has held me back.

Know what your values are in life and what your purpose is in life. It would make your decisions a lot easier. I learnt those late but I learnt them and it makes a massive difference now.

Presently I don’t think what other people would think about what I do, but instead think what if one person reads this and it inspires them to take action, I have made a difference.

I question myself to find out if what I am doing is in line with my purpose to Lead, Inspire, Motivate and Empower. If the answer is yes, then I go for it.

So don’t be afraid to attack life like a LION. Attack what you are after. If it doesn’t work out, dust yourself off and go again. Whatever you do, give it your best shot. You don’t have to please anybody in life but yourself. Be that person you want to be in life.

Be a Warrior! Be Fearless!


2 responses to How Deactivating Facebook Changed Things For Me


    Thanks for your post. Don’t worry, this post genuine deserved a liked, not like any Facebook kind of like.

    I agree with you and would like to share with you a saying that I came across, “Many people are dead by the age of 20 but only get buried at the age of 80”

    We are in a world of living dead. We are so used to following others, instruction and the motion in life. Our brain is just fall into deep hibernating mode.

    I thank you for your post for reminding me to ‘slap’ my brain to keep it going. I don’t wish to ‘die’ so early.


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